11/13/2024: The One Sure Thing

Some things are just unexpected. One day things can be bad when you thought things would be good and vice versa. But the best days are the ones that are unexpected in the best ways. It’s a feeling I wish I could harness every day, but I guess if every day was easy and perfect we would never learn or grow. 

Of course it sounds like a great thing, never having any troubles or challenges at all. But I learned recently that too much of either extreme, good or bad, too much or too little, isn’t the answer. If you have too much, you’ll never have enough, and if you have too little your suffering is too great to do anything but survive. And as humans, we have an innate desire to thrive, not just get by. 

There is always a balance to life that is required to truly be fulfilled, and sometimes we have to struggle and fight for a long time before we start to achieve that. But I don’t know of a fight more worth fighting than the one for happiness, love and fulfillment. 

Life oftentimes feels way too short when you realize how much time it takes to build the life of your dreams, and when you have a lot to lose. Time is equally patient and unforgiving, a brutal yet great teacher. We require time to learn, to grow, to mourn, to heal, to see. The one sure thing is time, and it’s up to us to make the most of it. 

I’m grateful for the time I’ve been given so far, and all my favorite unexpected things. Whether it’s a new experience or adventure with Caleb or my dear friends or family, a perfect cup of coffee in the morning, a great meal, a rainy day at home, an unexpected but much appreciated phone call, the feeling I get when I buy another book I don’t have room for, a day filled with laughter when I’m with my love and best friend in the whole world, these days and moments are the ones I cherish and strive to make more of, along with new and lasting memories I can look back on when I’m having a day that isn’t going my way. 

A friend of mine said that she used to let a bad day ruin her entire week, and I have to say that I remember a time I was the same way. But with time and healing, I learned that life is nothing but fleeting moments, and I may not even exist in the far future that I’m so worried about now. So it’s better to take life in moments, good and bad, for as long as time will allow.